By Dr. Natasha Valdez, author of A Little Bit Kinky
Fetishes can be experienced and enjoyed with all your senses. Here are some common ways.
Sight: Color Fetish
Some people get turned on by colors. Are you or your partner among them? Experiment by wearing various colors and see if anything turns you or your partner on. If you hit on one that gets your partner’s attention, try to don it as often as possible— whether that means special lingerie or boxers, or even wearing shirts in that color around your partner.
Smell: Scent Fetish
It’s a little- known fact that many men get turned on by the scent of pumpkin. Others, men and women, have been known to get turned on by the scent of chocolate- chip cookies baking. Next time you’re feeling amorous, why not bake something special for your beloved and see what happens.
Feel: Buried in Sand Fetish
If you don’t have a beach nearby, you’ll have to save this for a vacation. And yes, it’s messy, but just try it. Your partner lies down on their back in the sand and you cover their whole body except their face. This works better if the sand is a little wet, but try it both ways, with wet sand or with dry.
Sound: Listening to Sexy Sounds Fetish
Some people get more turned on by what they hear than what they see. Does that describe your partner or you? You can find out by watching a porn DVD that features a lot of vocalizing. Either close your eyes or have your partner blindfold you (or the other way around) as you listen to all the “Ooohs” and “Aaahs” and “Oh Gods.”
Taste: Fun with Food
Some of the best sex happens when it’s just you and your partner, exploring, savoring, devouring each other. But sex can also be fantastic when you add a little texture and flavor into the mix— literally.
Excerpted from A Little Bit Kinky by Dr. Natasha Valdez Copyright © 2010 by Dr. Natasha Valdez. Excerpted by permission of Broadway, a division of Random House of Canada Limited. All rights reserved.
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